You know it is over.
That does not mean your mind stops going back to him.
You check whether he has been online. You look at his page. You wonder where he is, who he is with, whether he misses you. Sometimes you even find an excuse to drive past somewhere you know he might be.
It can feel ridiculous when you are doing it.
There is a reason for it.
Your brain got used to having him in your life. His messages, his routines, knowing what he was doing, expecting to hear from him. Then suddenly all of that stops.
Now there is a blank space where there used to be information.
Checking fills that space for a minute.
You see his car. You notice he posted something. Somebody tells you where he was.
For a few seconds, you know.
Then your mind finds another question.
This gets even harder if the relationship was on and off. If he disappeared, came back, gave you attention, then pulled away again, you became used to waiting for the next bit of affection. The breakup can leave you doing the same thing.
Waiting.
That is why getting over somebody is not only about deciding the relationship was wrong.
You also have to stop feeding the habit.
Do not drive past his house.
Stop checking his social media.
Do not ask friends for updates and then pretend you were only curious.
If you know you will look at his profile at 1am, block it for a while.
Make the difficult moments harder to act on.
Then deal with the spaces he used to occupy.
If you always spoke at night, evenings may feel strange for a while. If weekends revolved around him, make plans before Saturday arrives. You are not trying to keep yourself frantically busy. You are teaching yourself that your day can happen without him in it.
You will still think about him sometimes.
The important part is that every thought does not become a search, a message or a drive past his street.
Habibti xx Reads the Room.
You know you are getting somewhere when you stop checking.
Not because you finally know what he is doing.
Because you no longer need to.